My Word for 2018: Alignment

What Is Alignment?

Alignment comes from the idea that like attracts like: if you’re in a good state of mind/energy, more good things will come to you. If you’ve ever heard of the Law of Attraction, it’s the same idea. I’ve been learning about alignment this past year through The Lively Show, one of my favorite podcasts, and I’ve decided it’s time to put these ideas into practice for myself.

So, I’ve chosen “alignment” as my word to focus on in 2018. Focusing on attracting what I want doesn’t mean I’m just going to sit on my couch and expect things to come to me. But when I get into alignment before I take action, I can magnify the actions I do take. I can receive much greater results with much less effort.

When I’m in alignment, I feel happy, connected to those around me, and I want to get things done! When I sit down to work, I’m focused, my mind is clear, and I’m much more productive. For me, that looks like writing this post in a dedicated 30 minute block instead of 2 hours, broken up by checking Facebook! It makes even more of an impact when I’m working with clients. Coaching conversations just flow, instead of having to check myself to stay focused. My clients get MUCH better results from a coach who’s in alignment versus one who’s dealing with resistance, frustration, or just focused on something else.

Of course, I’m not going to be in alignment all the time, but I want to maximize these effects whenever I can.

How I Bring Alignment into My Life

I do four things every day to get into alignment. What lights you up is going to be different than what lights me up.

Meditate

I meditate for 10 minutes every morning. Sometimes I can clear my mind with no effort, sometimes I just accept that thoughts about wedding planning are going to pop up every 5 seconds. Either way, those 10 minutes make a huge difference in my day. I can tell a difference in my state of mind and my focus when I’ve meditated (and everyone around me can tell that I get stressed more easily when I haven’t!).

Walk

I walk outside, usually for around 30 minutes. Today, I walked on the treadmill because it was 22 degrees (and I live in Georgia!), and it’s not the same. It’s that combination of being in nature and moving my body that really charges me up.

Audiobooks

I love listening to self-development audiobooks and podcasts. Right now, I’m listening to You’re a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero. Some other favorites have been Women, Food, and God by Geneen Roth and The Lively Show podcast mentioned earlier. I love reading fiction books, but these more uplifting audiobooks have been more effective for getting into alignment, especially when I listen while walking outside.

Journal

At minimum, I journal every night before I go to bed. I also like writing (stream of consciousness style) if I’m feeling resistance, at the start of a new year, or after a major life event. Writing helps me process my feelings and my day in general.

How can you get into alignment?

Take a minute and write down everything that comes to mind that lights you up. Over the next week, try different things on your list and notice how you feel after. What do you turn to make a bad day better? What can you do every day? I also have a list of things I love to do that I can do on special occasions, like walking on the beach.

I’d love to know what you do to get into alignment/get into your zone of genius/get into flow!

Lindsey

 

 

 

 

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Decision Fatigue

I’m so excited to share this Facebook live replay from last Thursday! I talked about decision fatigue, how it holds you back, and what you can do about it.

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What is Decision Fatigue?

It’s just what it sounds like- making little decisions all day every day that end up exhausting you. It’s one of the reasons you’re so exhausted at the end of the work day, or the reason you and your friends don’t want to be the one to pick the place for dinner.

How does it hold me back?

Wouldn’t you like to use that mental energy for something else? As a business owner, I know that I am beat at the end of a day where I’ve had to make so many decisions. At the end of the day, which is an important time for me because it’s my time with my fiancé, I’m exhausted. I don’t make choices that match up with my values or my goals for my health and relationships.

When you’re conscious about limiting the decisions you make, you have mental energy for the whole day. You can focus on what’s important, even if it’s at the very end of the day.

What you can do about it

Make the decision once. If you decide ahead of time that you’re going to workout every morning, you don’t have to go through the whole “should I or shouldn’t I” routine. Sure, there are other obstacles. But you’ve gotten rid of a huge roadblock by making the decision to go in advance.

Stop trying to be perfect. You’re adding a bunch of decisions to your to do list, and you’re not going to reach perfection anyway! When it’s good enough, stop.

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Celebrate Failure

So often, failure is something bad, or something to be afraid of. At the best, it’s something to put up with, to learn from when you can, or a temporary setback. Of course, it’s totally normal to be upset when you fail at something that’s important to you. And you might think it’s crazy to reframe failure in a positive way- but just give it a chance.

Reframing Failure

I saw a post on Facebook last week from my cousin who’s in med school. He wanted to know what people had failed at this week- so that they could celebrate the failures. He pointed out that when you’ve failed at something, it means you tried. And many times, you went out of your comfort zone or tried something new. When you look at it this way, failure really is something to celebrate!

celebrate failure because there are only opportunities

How Can You Celebrate Failure?

It starts with sharing, even if you’re ashamed or afraid to acknowledge that you failed. In the past week, I have failed at having a conversation with Jeff about our finances. I got really upset when I wanted to stay calm, and I was grumpy for the rest of the day because of it.

When you share your failures, think about how you benefitted from this failure. How did it bring you out of your comfort zone? What did you learn?

What have you failed at this week? Let me know in the comments!

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How to Feel Productive at the End of the Day

So many of my clients and friends say that their days feel rushed, and they feel like they never get anything done. I had one of those days yesterday: I had lots of errands to do, got distracted by some wedding research, and ended up feeling like I hadn’t accomplished anything. Not a good feeling. But most days, I’m really dedicated to making the most of my day, no matter how busy I get, and feeling like I’ve accomplished something important.

Here’s what I do to feel productive every day.

Your “Must Do” List

Even on a day like yesterday, there are a couple of non-negotiable things I do every day. This doesn’t have to be a morning routine, despite the many books and Instagram challenges that say otherwise.

Here are the things I do every day:

  • Meditate
  • Move my body (usually a walk or yoga)
  • Have a 15 minute check in with Jeff
  • Read before I go to bed

I do not compromise on these. I also don’t do them when I first wake up, except for meditation. Moving my body is usually in the late morning/early afternoon, I check in with Jeff when he gets home from work, and I read before I fall asleep.

My “nice to haves” are reading Geneen Roth, eating at least one meal by myself, and getting alone time during the day. But I can go without these and still feel satisfied. If I miss moving my body or something else from my “must do” list, I feel drained and slightly resentful.

What’s on your must do list? What do you need to do every day so you don’t feel burned out?

Start with what’s important

Sometimes (ok, a LOT of times), you’re going to have a busy day, and you won’t get everything done. When you start with the most important thing you need to get done, you’re guaranteed to check that off! If you start with something that’s not really important, like email or organizing your desk, you may not get to that more important task.

If you’re doing the most important thing on your to do list every day, you’re going to feel productive at the end of every day! One mistake I made with my “errand day” yesterday was not following through with this. And not following through made so much of a difference in how productive I felt I was yesterday.

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Core Values

Have you ever looked around and wondered how you got here?

One of my clients had that experience with her job recently. She feels like she wasn’t even paying attention to the last 10 years of her career, and she’s not even sure if she likes where she is now.

I know I’ve felt this way, too, although for me it was being out of shape. How did I go from running half-marathons regularly to having trouble running a mile?

In either situation, the first step is to clarify what’s important.

Let’s start by naming your values. My values, for example, are love, growth, and connection.

Side note: many people list family, friends, or church as their values. Those things are all awesome, and of course they’re important to you. But I want you to go deeper when writing out your values. What does family mean to you? Does your family make you feel love, or compassion, or joyful? Those are your values.

You want your values to be something that can apply in any area of your life. Let’s take my value of connection as an example. I can feel connection with my family, but also with my friends, my body, my business, my fiance… you get the picture. I can take any area of my life and see how much connection I feel in that area.

In other words, how do you want to feel each day?

Do you have three core values that click with you?

Next, let’s see how you are living out those values in each area of your life.

Value 1:

 

Value 2:

 

Value 3:

 

Relationships
Health & Wellness
Career/Finance
Spirituality
Lifestyle/Life Purpose

On a scale of 1 (lowest) to 10 (highest), how much are you living out each of your values in these 5 areas?

Now, it’s time to take some action. Pick ONE box (that means one area & one value) that you’d like to work on first. What can you do this week to improve that rating? For example, if your value of connection shows up as a 5 in your career, how can you move it to a 6 this week? Once you’ve started with this area, you can come back and work on another.

When you’re truly living life based on your values, you don’t wake up one day and realize you don’t know how you got here. Clarifying your values is a huge step towards an intentional life.

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